Rose – Wants Children

Dear Kate,
Please pray for me. I want God to bless my marriage with children. Thanks,

Dear Rose,

I have been praying for you and will continue so. In my experience, there are two reasons when we do not get what we want:

  1. God has a different plan for us.
  2. We block the blessings.

God promised many descendants to Abraham. Having a baby is the greatest gift we will ever receive from God. The thought of not being able to conceive shakes women to the core. They often think that God has deserted them.

Rose, I cannot tell you, if God has a different plan or merely a different timetable for you. Ask Him. He will answer you. If so, focus on God’s plan instead of your desire to have children. Let His will be done.

However, if you think children are His plan for you, I would assume that you or your husband are blocking the blessings. To unblock them, you can use the Prayer Pyramid, which is a method based on the Lord’s Prayer.

PrayerPyramid2_324The Prayer Pyramid contains six elements: Accept, Trust, Ask, Need, Sin, and Lure. I will go through them and discuss how to use each one to unblock the blessings.

Accept: Do you and your husband accept Jesus as your savior? Does He know you? Do you have other gods in your life? I hope your answer is “yes” to the first two questions and “no” to the third one. If not, you know where to start your journey.

Trust: Do you trust the Lord? Do not be like Sarah, who did not have faith in the Lord, asking Abraham to sleep with his slave Hagar (Genesis 16). You CAN trust God. He keeps His promises. “Sarah became pregnant and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the very time God had promised him.” (Genesis 21:2). So, if God has promised children to you, you must trust Him. He will come through at the time of His choosing. However, you should also be open if this child is not your flesh. Many children in this world need loving parents. Ask God what He has in mind for you. He will tell you.

Ask: This part of the Prayer Pyramid is all about the nature of your relationship with God. It makes no sense to ask if we do not believe that He exists and can intervene (Prayer Pyramid – Accept), and He has the will and power to do so (Prayer Pyramid – Trust). But what about when He answers, but we are unable to hear Him? Is there so much noise in your life that you cannot pick up the sound of His voice? Are you so focused on your wishes that you stopped listening to His message? Do you rebel and never obey Him, so He gave up talking to you a long time ago? I cannot answer these questions, only you can. However, I know if you cannot discern what God’s plan is for you, you need first to fix this relationship, before you can expect Him to bless you. The Bible says that “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him” (Psalm 127:3). What is the nature of your relationship with God? Be honest!

Needs: While the wish for a child is a Need for you, it is neither the case for God or the world. Children are gifts, and as such, we have no right to them.

Sin: Maybe God has a different plan and blessing in mind for you. To hear His answer, you must ask and listen. Sin blocks all sounds and creates a barrier to God. Repent and ask for forgiveness for your misdeeds. Forgive anybody who has sinned against you. These actions clean the noise from the sound channel to God.

Temptation: Are you someone who gives up on a relationship when you do not get your way? Don’t give up on God, fix the connection to Him, and be surprised.

I cannot say which area you need to work on. I hope, however, with this analysis, you get a clearer picture of where to start. I pray that God helps you in asking for His vision, in teaching you how to listen to Him, and in accepting His plan. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Warm regards,


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